Discipline comes in many forms

So our daughter Megan has a stubborn streak. She will only do things if it's her idea and on her own time. This leads to a great deal of negotiation. A couple of times I've been under the delusion that I'm the mommy and she's the little girl and she needs to do what I say.... Again a complete delusion. Even when dragged to the desired location to do things she will go limp noodle on you and forget her doing anything. This has lead us to use a lot of reverse psychology. A typical power struggle can go like this... Also note this doesn't get old due to the fact that Megan is usually upset during the power struggle so she hasn't picked up on the fact that we usually do this.... Or so we thought.. Mom: Megan you need to (enter desired behavior) go to the potty. Megan: no, it's mommy's turn Mom: Megan, you're dancing around, go to the potty. Megan: NO it's mommy's turn Mom: Megan, if you spill (this is the word she's determined to use for having an accident, she doesn't have accidents, she spills)... Megan: No, I'm not (at this point she's doing the jitterbug and whining, but because mom's the one that mentioned it she is NOT going to go) Mom: Let's go (mommy proceeds to take megan to the potty, with Megan kicking and screaming, when we get to said potty she goes limp noodle and falls off the toilet and again won't go) mommy: Fine Megan it's mommy's turn. Megan: NO IT'S MEGAN'S TURN!! Mom: OK it's Megan's turn Megan: NO IT'S MOMMY'S TURN! (yes caps means she is yelling) Mom: OK it's mommy's turn Megan: NO it's Megan's turn Mom: nope it's mommy's turn (Megan breaks down into sobs saying "megan's turn, Megan's turn" while mommy refuses to let her on the toilet) Mom: Megan, do you want a turn? Megan: ummmhummm Mom: ok Megan goes to the potty. OK, this is not and exaggeration. I'd say 3 out of 5 times this is what happens with the potty experience. We've tried EVERYTHING else, the only thing that works is the reverse psychology. We have to make it seem like going to the potty was her idea or else it just doesn't work. Note: this is usually when we are trying to go somewhere and need her to go or we will be outside without a bathroom available for her to inevitably use unless she goes. Anyway this leads to this morning. Kev and I were still in bed and the kids were goofing off in the living room. We weren't really paying attention to the conversation they were having when all of a sudden something stuck out. Megan said "OK Spencer, no sit down, it's Megan's turn." Spencer then proceeded to say "no it's spencer's turn". In listening to the conversation more Kev and I started laughing. Our 3 year old was using reverse psychology on our 21 month old! It was hysterical.... also frightening realizing we wouldn't be able to use that tactic any longer... she's figured us out.